Some friends come to me to talk about sex. They are, on average, seventeen years old, virgins, and want to justify why it's time to have sex, exposing their views on politics, family, religion...
Nothing I say will help them in the short term, or put simply, nothing I say will stop them from having sex, nor do I want to be the obstacle to their deflowering. My role is simply to prevent them from getting into trouble. Therefore, the best thing to do is to reach for my glasses and put them on. At first, this action is insignificant, but a discreet movement of pulling the glasses down and a flirtatious look can convey an air of intellectuality that will greatly improve the relationship between the advisor and the advised.
For most individuals, there isn't a sudden awakening to sexuality. All of us, from birth, are directed towards this moment, whether through the awareness that there are males and females, or through observing the family structure. Self-knowledge education is indispensable, as each individual must more than be ready, they must feel ready to start an active sex life.
The deflowering of sexuality is part of the life cycle, like birth or death, and should in no way be seen as promiscuity. However, the social trend of sex among young people has become a big problem, as many young people start their sexual lives only because other young people have already started, these young people who started for the same reason or out of mere rebellion.
And beyond the many studies on the consequences of traumatic sexual initiation. Other aspects that often go unnoticed by scientific observation should also be considered. One of them, which would be good to highlight, is young people's expectation of experiencing their sexuality in a caring and romantic atmosphere.
No matter how much a girl shows affection and sweetness, many young men are conditioned to not see delicacy in a deflowered young woman, and the shy boy tends to think that because he lost his virginity, he must suddenly gain maturity, demanding of himself a control that can by no means be achieved in bed.
It is certain that young people, of both sexes, who start their sexual lives without being prepared, end up not being able to fulfill their romantic desires of experiencing sex with the care and romanticism they always dreamed of. Many also complain about the partner's demands, who shows a different sexual maturity than their own, something that should be treated with much dialogue and respect. (Sílvio Lôbo)
